Honoring Emotions to Connect to My Spouse

I felt angry, ticked off, and disgusted and I knew that it was time to honor some emotions.

by our Mentor Danie Davis

I was able to safely honor how I felt, communicate those feelings to my husband with confidence and then listen to his side of the story while honoring his feelings and experience.

This morning, as I was planning my day with Christ, I was directed to use a specific tool: The Feelings Jar. I needed to remember it and practice it.


Well, I went about the day as normal and then I learned that my husband bought something that really backfired financially. We had several overdraft fees as a result and it led me to me feeling some pretty strong emotions. I felt angry, ticked off, and disgusted and I knew that it was time to honor some emotions.


A year ago, this situation that occurred would have been such a huge mess and I would have covered up my feelings and distanced myself from my husband for days – using the good ol’ silent treatment as some sort of punishment. But because of what I have learned from Joyful Heart Mastery and the tool I was prompted to use today, I was able to safely honor how I felt, communicate those feelings to my husband with confidence and then listen to his side of the story while honoring his feelings and experience.


We had a great talk and responded calmly to one another. I did not attack and shame him with my words. He did not respond defensively and tell me I shouldn’t feel what I felt. It was rather amazing to just talk something through and honor each other’s feelings and it made it so much easier to let it all go.


I was able to reconnect to my husband quicker than I could in the past and get back to joy! We were laughing and joking at dinner not ten minutes after our talk! I am so grateful that I have learned how to honor emotions and have had many opportunities to practice doing that with my husband by using the Feelings Jar.

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